Gratitude as a Reframe
I was having one of those days. Filled with disappointment in people. No one it seemed was living up to my expectations and I felt cruddy. I was ruminating over being done wrong When I woke the next morning I wanted a different day. I am all about having negative feelings (well in theory anyway) but I didn’t want to stay in a pity party. So I started my day in bed thinking about the people that had hurt my feelings and all the things they had done for me over time. All the things I was grateful for. Everything I would miss if they were no longer in my life. It totally changed my attitude. I got out of bed and I was in a better mood. I had a good day.
What I have learned is that it is okay to be disappointed. It is good to be able to express those feelings and get your needs met. At the same time dwelling in them doesn’t help. It can create a spiral of negativity that can be hard to shake. Life is tough enough without creating my own obstacles. If there is one thing I have learned this year it is that there is never enough time. It is hard but important to stay focused on the present and what is good. Not ignoring what is bad but not staying there either.
Today I started wearing a new necklace. It says “Beauty is found in the small moments”. That is how I am trying to live.